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Tuesday, April 21, 2015

When do parents need to focus?

“It’s time to do your homework, dear.”

“Just a minute. I just have to finish this.”

“You know you have to complete your homework. It won’t take long.”

“Just a minute. I just have to finish this.”

“Why do I have to remind you? Why can’t you simply do the work yourself? We have been through this before. There is a time to play and a time to do homework.”

“Oh yes. Just a minute. I just have to finish this.”

Encouraging children to do extra work, in some cases, seems to require the skills and attributes of a policy maker. Almost every parent on earth knows that the best strategy is to move the responsibility from the formal `parent/child’ relationship to the individual choices of the child.

A further sweeping statement must follow to clarify the intent of the previous paragraph. Parents will know that there is an inverse relationship between the number of transactions required to encourage their child to study and the length and depth of the dialogue.

Children will often attempt to delay, divert and dissipate the effect of any dictates.

“Please can I have a drink first. I am very thirsty.”

“You have just had one. Why do you need another one?”

At this stage the unwary parent may not notice that the discussion has moved from doing homework to needing a drink. A discussion on diabetes, diet and the need for exercise may follow.
(Focus Mum, Focus Dad!)





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