Sunday, July 31, 2011
Outside of the school the eleven plus child’s family must also play a part. Parents could have differing views on the eleven plus – with one `party’ in support and the other in denial. The extended family of uncles, aunts, grand parents and cousins can also play a role in taking an interest in the progress of eleven plus preparations.
Then we have the school community. It can lie in the ebb and flow of the school playground. Eleven Plus tutors can be discussed – and accepted or rejected. (One man’s meat is another man’s poison.) A tutor who can be wildly successful with one child may not be as effective with another. A mother chatted to me yesterday. She explained that her older two children had had lessons with us – and that both had passed into the grammar system. She was now entrusting us with her third. I said `Thank you’.
The little eight year old popped up with: “My mother says that I am the brightest of the lot.”
She, the little girl, then went on to write a story about a girl who had a red hand bag with a magic potion inside. We enjoyed paragraphs and even direct speech. Many eleven plus boards have given up the idea of an examination in written English having the ability to select children – but her story would leave no one in any doubt that a fertile imagination, a wide vocabulary and the ability to communicate in writing could play a part.
Many teachers in Britain work under a national system – with a nation wide salary structure and universal standards of entry. Eleven plus teachers, outside of the system, however, can set their own hours, charge what they like and are largely unregulated. Eleven plus teachers are removed from administrative control. There would also be very little community control of his or her professional activities and leisure pursuits.
Perhaps the informal eleven plus `playground’ community could be augmented by a more formal `Eleven Plus Parent Teacher Association’? I had the privilege of being invited into a school sometime ago where there was a sign: “No parent is allowed through this door without permission.” Some Eleven Plus teachers would enjoy a much more relaxed relationship with parents. I remember reading, however, many years ago, a report by Jackson and Marsden (1962) which pointed out that some of the working class parents of grammar school children were rather hesitant to enter the school to discuss their children.
The role of parents in the eleven plus saga has not, however, been carefully documented. Yesterday I met another mother who was reading a book and listening to a tape at the same time. She had borrowed the book and tape from the library – and explained that she had come to England some years ago, was still struggling with English, but really wanted her daughter to pass the eleven plus.
Hearing this tale of effort and dreams reminds me of a poem I read many years ago. Parents have to make choices about their children – and some choices are not easy. Parents just want the best possible lives for their children.
Twaalf jaar oud, toe gee my pa
Die sekel in my hand:
“Die somer sal jy kromstaan, seun
Jou sweet laat op the land.
Twelve years old, my Dad then put
The sickle in my hand:
“This summer you’ll stand bent, my boy,
You’ll sweat into the land.
Saturday, July 30, 2011
“Oh my poor dear, we must go to the optician again.”
“Come on Mum. We only went last month. She said there was nothing wrong.”
“Well, something is stopping you working on the eleven plus papers.”
“Look mum, you know that man’s eyes were originally made for outside use. Uncle Murray used to tell us about hunting in the gloom at night and in the early mornings. He used to say that fish rose when the light on the water changed.”
“Yes dear. Uncle Murray used to say many things. I did not always believe him even when we were children together. No I am worried about all you studying under this artificial light. You have complained about the light ever since we had to replace our 100 watt bulbs.”
“Well Mum. You may be right but it is glare on the paper that distracts me. The European Community’s dictates are affecting my eleven plus studies. Oh Mum. What can I do? We can not complain to Brussels it will take too long and the eleven plus will be over.”
“You like working from the “XXX” Eleven Plus papers. They have dark print on a white background.”
“I never get any eye strain when I am on my Ipad2.”
“You know that you can only go on your infernal machine once you have done your eleven plus work. Come on now. Try to stop whinging and get on with the paper.”
“I looked it up Mum. I have all the symptoms of eye strain. My left eye is red. My eyelids are inflamed. I have headaches every time I try an eleven plus paper. I can’t go on.”
“All right dear. I know that you do not have any foreign objects in your eyes. We have checked for this. I know the papers are not too hard. You are getting 85% on them. Your teacher says that you are in the top groups.
Can your dear father and I do anything to get you to do some extra work on your eleven plus?”
“Well that is a funny thing mother. I do have a `little’ list. Can we go over it now?”
“That is enough. I don’t believe there is anything wrong with your eyes. Give me your Ipad. That is going away until you have finished the paper. Sit down. NOW! You will work for thirty five minutes without a word.”
“Yes mother. Sorry mother. I will start now.”
Friday, July 29, 2011
Hush little baby, don't say a word,
Papa's gonna buy you a mockingbird.
And if that mockingbird won't sing,
Papa's gonna buy you a diamond ring.
And if that diamond ring turns to brass,
Papa's gonna buy you a looking glass.
And if that looking glass gets broke,
Papa's gonna buy you a billy goat.
And if that billy goat won't pull,
Papa's gonna buy you a cart and bull.
And if that horse and cart fall down,
You'll still be the sweetest little baby in town!
The valuable eleven plus element is the ability of the song for parents to be able to add their own words.
Hush eleven plusa, don’t feel a jerk
Mama’s gonna give you a massive perk.
And if that perk is not enough;
Papa’s the one you gotta bluff.
I think this verse is getting worse
But please hang on and do not curse.
The eleven plus exam is getting close
It’s up to you to take your dose.
I’m not sure how to stop these words
The eleven plus exam is for the birds.
This final verse will not rhyme or scan,
My eleven plus humour went down the pan.
Thursday, July 28, 2011
We then placed an upturned glass in the centre of the table. Each person sitting around the table rested a finger on the glass. The idea was that the glass would move without the benefit of someone controlling the board.
Sometimes just one person would place a finger on the glass. Some people were able to make the glass move while others were less successful.
On our second adventure someone, I think it was one of the girls, brought along a proper board. This was a flat rectangle made of polished wood. There was general agreement that the glass moved more easily.
Like any eighteen year old we were interested in the future. I do not recall questioning the board about how to change or adjust a fan belt. We were also little concerned with how to make pasta.
Around half way through the second section, when we were not sure how and why the glass was moving (there was considerable scepticism) my brain called a halt to my involvement. I can still remember the accusations that were levelled at me in the morning about being a spoil sport and an inferior being.
The use of an Ouija Board came to mind as I listened to two parents, who do not have lessons with us, talking about the difficulty in finding a suitable tutor who was willing to take their child on in preparation for the eleven plus. We know that the `super tutors’ are acknowledged as having almost supernatural powers. It may be possible for some supremely lucky parents to break into the so called magic circle. Other less fortunate parents, and their offspring, have to settle for what amounts to second best.
Eleven Plus parents could ask the board:
Which tutor is going to bring out the best in my child? (Will the glass spell out the name of the favoured one?)
How much work will my child have to do every day? (The Ouija board has letters – not numbers – so parents may have to wait for the glass to spell out a word.)
Is pop corn going to be more nutritious than other fast foods when bribing my child?
If my child complains of toothache after every lesson is he or she grinding his or her teeth at the thought of all that extra work – or is there a real problem?
Do we really need a super tutor or can a concerted family effort do just as well?
And finally we could ask the board: “Is the eleven plus my dream or that of my child?”
Wednesday, July 27, 2011
Eleven plus parents who try to help their child pass the eleven plus by encouraging daily doses of full eleven plus papers may not be helping as much as they hope. What may be happening is that their precious child is just learning over and over again that he or she can not obtain full marks on a paper.
Very few of us can claim that we have actually made contact with a witch – and I have never heard of an eleven plus witch! In medieval times witches were generally women who were more knowledgeable than others. The witches could foretell the future. (Today’s witch would be able to answer: “Will my much loved child pass the eleven plus?”)
Witches were able to practice white magic – where they gathered herbs to cure people. (A bit like some of today’s well-informed eleven plus parents who hope that lots and lots of eleven plus papers will cure all eleven plus ills.)
A witch would chant a benison – and often used this blessing to calm and cure the patient. (“Just do your best dear. It does not matter if you pass. We will still love you.”)
Witches usually had a `familiar’ – as in a dog or a cat or even a toad.
Witches and witchcraft were put down during the fifteenth century – but this did not stop Shakespeare writing about them in Act 1 of `Macbeth’.
Enter three WITCHES.
When shall we three meet again? In thunder, lightning, or in rain?
When the hurlyburly's done, When the battle's lost and won.
That will be ere the set of sun.
Where the place?
Upon the heath.
There to meet with Macbeth.
I come, Graymalkin!
Fair is foul, and foul is fair: Hover through the fog and filthy air.
Common or garden English witches usually practised their rites in February, May, August and November. Sacrifices were made to pagan gods and there was often dancing, excitement and a full range of emotions. As the eleven plus examinations approach this year – in just a few months time - some parents may be advised to warn their children not to take too much notice if they (the parents) suddenly paint their faces green and dance around a foot high pile of eleven plus papers.
Enter Two Parents
(The parents are dressed in robes with green painted faces. They are carrying the family cats under their arms and each is holding a bottle of Martini.)
First Parent chants
My child will pass the eleven plus – with our help.
But do not put on too much pressure.
Nonsense – our child thrives on pressure.
Don’t you think that we are overdoing it a bit?
It is not long to go now.
Can I go and wash my face now?
Many years ago, before the eleven plus examinations started, Floyd Ruch, a teacher of psychology, gave a test of common sense to large classes of university students. The students were presented with a series of statements and asked to answer “True” or “False”.
The marriage of cousins is practically certain to result in children of inferior intelligence.
Long slender hands indicate an artistic temperament.
Adults sometime become feebleminded from over study.
Emotional expression in another person can be judged more accurately from the eyes than from the mouth.
If you stare at a person’s back you can make them turn around. This is a form of telepathy.
Especially intelligent children are likely to be weak and retarded physically.
We know today that all of these statements are false. (Back in years before the Second World War – over half of the American students said that all the above statements were true!)
We can try to apply some similar statements to our present eleven plus children.
All eleven plus children should work through lots of papers.
The internet has become the most important tool for helping eleven plus children.
Eleven plus children need to obtain over 80% on certain `important’ papers – otherwise they will not pass.
Parents have to find a famous eleven plus teacher to ensure that their child passes.
If you read questions twice you will be able to answer the questions.
Tuesday, July 26, 2011
When we come to the English essay, for example, then some questions may ask for imagination and style while others may be looking for descriptive writing. The interpretation of the answer may be subject the marker’s whims, feelings and emotions. Considerable efforts have gone into marker standardisation. A sample of scripts can be sent to a senior examiner who then re-marks – while looking for consistency. Sometimes the marks of two or more examiners are pooled – to try to enhance reliability.
Some of us succumb to the exigencies of the National Lottery. Even fewer of us will have had a result worth a few pounds. Our ticket is scanned by an optical mark reader – where a ray of light is passed over our ticket – and this is translated into the winning number.
The multiple choice eleven plus tests sat by thousands of children are marked by an optical mark reader. There are eleven plus selection papers on the market where parents and children can practice filling in answers.
Some parents use the test-retest model to establish the reliability and accuracy of their child’s practice papers. If their child is able to stand doing the same examination twice, then parents can have a view on progress. Naturally this method relies on not going over the first paper. Memory must play a part on certain questions. Other factors affecting results may the child’s state of mind, external conditions of testing ( for example no T.V. ) and the length of time between the papers.
The eleven plus examination, however, in most areas does not allow for a second chance.
Would you prefer to have a total rest over the holidays or would you like to do some eleven plus work?
Have you been doing enough eleven plus work or do you think that you need to do more?
Do you think that your friends are doing the same amount of eleven plus work? Are some doing more? Are some doing less?
Does your mind wander sometimes so that you lose track or are you able to keep focused?
Do you think that you will get worked up before examination or will you take it all in your stride?
Can you sit still for a considerable period of time or do you think that you may fidget in the actual examination?
Do you think that you work through eleven plus answers carefully and methodically – or do you tend to answer very quickly?
Do you classify yourself as a hard worker?
Do you think that you argue quite a bit or are you a bit more laid back?
Have you set you heart on passing the eleven plus or do you not really mind where you go to senior school?
Do you know anyone who has passed the eleven plus? Have you talked?
Does you family prefer you when you have strong opinions or should you think a little more before you engage in a `deep’ discussion?
Do you indulge in day dreams?
Do you have many interests outside of the eleven plus?
Who is better at solving problems? Is your mother better than your father?
Are you afraid of thunderstorms?
Should you be made to keep your room tidy?
Should you ben offered lots of rewards as you do your eleven plus work – or should there just be one big reward - if you pass?
Are you pleased and excited by eleven plus work?
Sunday, July 24, 2011
When parents buy a paper from the internet or from a book shop – or one supplied by the tutor - they are purchasing a paper which is a sample of eleven plus questions. It is a useful sample if it is truly representative.
Sometimes, when parents look with great interest at a paper, they may wonder if the paper is a representative sample or a random sample. A random sample of eleven plus questions is a sample drawn from a specified eleven plus population in a random manner. Sometimes random numbers are used to select the questions. In theory, if the population is clearly defined, a random sample should be free of bias. This sample may not be representative of the population – especially if the eleven plus counties or regions have different subgroups of questions.
A paper from one publisher, for example, may be very useful for a child in one eleven plus area – but not as useful in another. This does not mean that there is any thing wrong with the test – it simply means that some questions may not be as effective as others.
If a paper has been designed and set for the whole country there may be questions that will not come up in your child’s examination. Press on – give help where you can.
There is a website you can link up with where it is possible to generate random songs.
Type in relevant words about your child, the eleven plus, being clever, working hard – I selected the `Ballard’ option. Wow! This gives you a view of random thoughts!
Friday, July 22, 2011
One of the best features of the Eleven Plus examination is the amount of human interaction that is generated. There is interaction within a family, sometimes between the school and parents and at other times, possibly, with an outside agency such as a tutor.
How your eleven plus child behaves towards the eleven plus may be coloured by your perception of the eleven plus.
“Oh – the eleven plus is a walk in the park.”
“None of our family has been to grammar school. We really want our child to have the opportunity.”
Shakespeare, when he was writing `As You Like It’ back in 1600 may have been writing about the eleven plus.
All the world’s a stage,
An all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts.
Shakespeare does, however, spoil the illusion when a little later on he talks about the school boy creeping unwillingly to school with a shining morning face.
Some eleven plus children may find the process of preparing for the examination to be a measured and organised trip – others, however, may feel that their lives are rather chaotic.
It seems that some parents appear to work on the premise that the more information they are able to gather about their child, the more secure they feel. Other parents seem to have the luxury of complete confidence in their children’s preparations. “We just do the best we can.”
A `dyad’ is a pair in Greek. The word can be applied to an atom or even an element. In eleven plus terms the word could possibly be used in terms of face to face interaction. The eleven plus parent and the eleven plus child have to adjust their own behaviour in response to the intentions and preferences of the other. When parents are working with their child they have to take into account their child’s emotions and thoughts. Both parties also have to take into account each other’s expectations.
“Let us work on this together,” may be music to your child’s ears.
Thursday, July 21, 2011
I have a friend, Rob Hounsell, who did his final thesis on James Joyce and Ulysses. He was able to understand the stream of consciousness and the apparently rambling sentences. If you take your eleven year old to
Other parents may be off to
The Chief of Police asked for the charlatan to be charged and put into prison. He questioned him.
“Mariolo, how do you manage to attract so many people and make so much money?”
“It is easy, Sir. How many people do you think cross the bridge in one day?”
The policeman answered, “From ten to twelve thousand.”
“Well Sir. How many really intelligent people do you suppose there are among them?”
“One hundred,” replied the policeman.
“OK. I will rely on the other nine thousand nine hundred to make my living.”
To some children working through some eleven plus papers must be a bit like bumbling through seemingly unrelated events – as in Ulysses. At other times parents must wonder if encouraging their child to work through hundreds of questions – in the hope of covering some of the questions that may come up in the eleven plus examination – is either a lost art or a bit of a waste of time.
Some eleven plus questions may appear to take rather quaint form.
A train 105 m long passes an eleven plus child at 63 km/h in 6 seconds. How fast is a train 100 m long travelling if it passes the candidate in 5 seconds?
Do you really want your eleven plus child to be able to offer the correct answer, in less than half a minute?
Is a question, of this nature, the work of a rambling mathematical brain or the outpourings of an eleven plus charlatan? Or is this a `really useful’ question?
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
What happens when your heart is broken? Does this really mean that you are hopelessly distressed or simply that one day you hope that you will recover?
You offer your eleven plus child a problem. If your heart drops to the bottom of your boots does this mean that the downward speed of the heart will increase as soon as it leaves your chest? The traditional eleven plus question is: “Assume that a stone is dropped down a deep well. Will it travel faster and faster until it reaches the bottom?”
(Out of interest - Lord James Douglas once carried the heart of King Robert Bruce to
Suppose you tie a goat to a piece of string. Place the goat in a rectangular field. The goat then eats all the grass. Ask your eleven plus child to tell you what shape is the patch of grass that the goat eats?
If you then asked your eleven plus child about a piece of string tried to a nail – and you set the question: “If you move the pencil and keep the string tight – what shape will you draw?
We can take the experiment a little further. Ask your child a simple eleven plus question. If each side of a hexagon is 6sm long, what is the length of the perimeter?
Finally ask your child: If a gardener has enough grass seed to seed a lawn 8 m by 3 m, and he uses it to seed a lawn 6 m long, how wide will it be?
To answer these questions your can encourage your child to close his or her eyes and try to visualise the problem.
You could also suggest that your child draws a little sketch. This could help to develop a strategy for answering questions.
It is difficult to know, however, what to do with the broken heart. All you can do is hope that your child remains happy, healthy and well. If your child does the best that he or she can do then your heart may never be broken.
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
The next time your child argues with you about an eleven plus answer you could relate the tale of Mr. S.E. Asch – who was an American psychologist in the early fifties. He asked a small group of volunteers to match up comparison lines with a standard line. For a while there would be agreement, then all the subjects but one changed their minds and insisted that a line that was obviously shorter was a perfect match.
What had happened was that one person was telling the truth and the rest were lying. The lone objector was under pressure to change his mind and move towards agreeing with the majority. A number of the volunteers did doubt their own judgements and agree to change their minds.
Your eleven plus child announces: “But I still don’t understand.”
You explain the whole process again.
The head is shaken again – along with a low grumbled mutter.
You try again – this time using a different approach – and different examples.
“No – I don’t get it.”
You try for the third time and at the end of the explanation you say: “You see?”
You child says: “Now I understand.”
Your mind wanders. Is there real comprehension? Does your child really understand what you are saying? Is your child simply trying to shut you up to avoid hearing it all again?
Your mind wanders again. You recall a conversation in the playground where one mother was complaining that her son chose his friends from the rougher elements of the class. She told the other mothers that she had asked her son why he played with these rather disreputable characters. He told her that if he played with the boys who did well academically, he would be pilloried and teased. He felt that he should conform.
We can see how peer pressure can encourage a child to behave badly or in an inappropriate manner, we can see too how too much repetition can lead a child to agreeing in desperation.
All is, however, not lost. Readers of the Telegraph in the early eighties will remember the correspondence in the letters column about the proverb: “Barking dogs never bite.” A canvassing candidate had arrived at a house were an Alsatian was barking ferociously. The candidate was told that she could go in because `barking dogs never bite’.
“Yes,” said the candidate, “I know the proverb, you know the proverb – but does the dog know the proverb?”
There are many definitions of being a parent. An eleven plus parent, however, may have to acquire skills that are not always needed by the general public. Ordinary parents do not commonly and routinely need to solve verbal or non verbal reasoning problems. A key proportion of ordinary parents are able breeze through a day without having to explain the relationship between lowest terms, ratio and scale. A significant majority of parents, not withstanding the eleven plus, are able to throw up their hands and mutter about a feeling that being a parent, at times, is just being a glorified social worker.
Social workers play an essential part in today’s society. Social workers do not only have to work with family and group problems involving poverty and handicaps but their remit is much wider – very often they have to help their clients to come to terms with personal change. Even though there are a myriad of specialist roles within the field of social work the great majority of social workers will have studied behavioural scientists and sociologists.
A social worker, however, is not a universal aunt – forced to listen to the problems of other people. Today’s social workers, like most parents, have a remit to help and assist and supply therapeutic comfort when necessary. The case study must surely be the key to learning to understand the problems of others.
It may be possible, at times, to see a relationship between a social worker’s ideals and those of an eleven plus parent. The case study is often undertaken to gather information. An eleven plus case study, for example, might include observations on how ready a child is to commence eleven plus work, willingness of parents to listen, observe and participate, the ability of a child, working and living conditions, quality of schooling, relationships with siblings and financial security. It is possible that a social worker may need to include at least some of these areas in a case study.
There may be a real problem, however, in that it is too easy to generalise when trying to evaluate the effectiveness of a case study. Many teachers, at one time or another, may have been invited to undertake and evaluate a case study as part of their training to be a teacher. Parents, however, have an inbuilt advantage – they live with their potential case study. They know their eleven plus child backwards – but like all parents they have the ability to be pleasantly surprised by their child’s acumen and ability.
What is the Problem?
The Eleven Plus is looming.
What are we are doing to solve the problem?
Papers, books, exercises, gathering information from friends, family, teachers
How are you going to solve the problem – if in fact it exists?
Interest, sympathy, therapy, building relationships, enjoying your child’s company
What do you think the outcomes will be?
Success at the end – we hope!
What were the challenges?
Sifting through all the conflicting information, realising that your sweet eleven plus candidate is growing up very fast. Understanding that you can not hold back change.
What are you going to do between now and the examination?
Lots of positive thinking, continuous prayer and considerable hard and sustained work
Will you do it all again?
Well we may have to – because number two is only a few months away from starting.
Monday, July 18, 2011
Long before any eleven plus parent sets off to engage in a dialogue with an eleven plus professional there is little doubt that many discussions and conversations will have taken place. Only a small element of the worries and concerns of many parents will ever be offered – because most concerns will be submerged. Very often family, friends and relatives will be consulted – and sometimes listened to. The professional help is often sought to confirm a diagnosis.
The professional’s conclusions are then relayed to the family who listen and then advise action. Sometimes a decision is made then and there – but a moment of reflection is often the most effective remedy. Parents will have a very different perspective on their children to that of teachers, tutors and consultants. Very few parents would argue that an outsider knew more about their child.
What makes a parent on a particular day to consider engaging the help of an outsider? A child may have been experiencing pre eleven plus problems for some time. Some parents will have played bringing their children up by a common sense set of rules. There will have been regular visits to dentists, opticians and possibly even doctors. There are the parents who may possibly have been present at open days at school, parent meetings, school plays and fetes. Some parents may even be able to say that they monitored their child’s homework rigorously – and were always available to give eleven plus help and advice.
When I was growing up our family doctor always used to say: “What makes you think you have a problem?” We were then expected to be able to diagnose out own symptoms – and even suggest some conclusions. In hind sight he may have worked on the premise that he felt that many illnesses were psychosomatic.
“What makes you think that you can not answer that eleven plus problem?”
No doubt our Latin teachers at school would have used the words: “Cura te ipsum.” This urges us to cure our selves before trying to treat others.
Ask your child to read the question again before asking for help.
Remind your child that he or she may have met a similar question previously.
Suggest to your child that he or she does not `get stuck’ on one question but moves on and then may choose to come back to that question later on.
Remind your child that you will not have a physical presence in the examination – but you will be there in spirit.
Ask your child if he or she really needs outside help or whether most of the eleven plus problems can be solved with the family circle.
Saturday, July 16, 2011
What do some parents want from their eleven plus teacher or tutor?
The teacher should be able to successfully guide the development of the eleven plus child.
Parents would also hope that the teacher will be able to understand their child’s behaviour.
It should not be difficult to think that children should also play a significant part in the eleven plus process – after all it is the children who have to do most of the work. Does the child understand the teacher’s behaviour?
Eleven plus teachers need quite a bit of information about the children they are teaching. Is the child feeling well? Are there holidays approaching? Has the child done any work outside of the lessons?
Very few parents would want to argue with the premise that the more information that can be offered the more likely it is that the correct lesson can be prescribed.
Some teachers seem to be able to sum up a child in a remarkably short time. The playground feeling may be that a teacher of this genre is born not made. Some parents would probably rush to have their child tutored by a sympathetic and knowledgeable teacher.
It is very likely that the best possible eleven plus teacher, or tutor, is going to be either the mother or the father – or a combination of both parents!
1. Mums and Dads know their children.
2. Mums and Dads can change the rules because they are the mums and dads.
3. Children are usually pretty astute – and know their parents’ moods.
4. Mums and Dads know about holidays, health and the amount of work that has been done.
5. Mums and Dads can be remarkably sympathetic at times.
It does not matter if parents can not work out all the answers. One bright little eleven plus boy explained to me today that he was doing very well on papers at home but that his mother found some of the verbal reasoning questions hard. I asked him how he coped. He replied that he did not mind as his aunt was a teacher and he could ask her!
Friday, July 15, 2011
Should you allow your child to become stressed about the eleven plus? Are you sure that you should reiterate that: “It does not really matter.” Do you always try to smooth things over for your child and do your best to help your child avoid reality?
Does your child deliberately look for stress? Have there been signs of this from the beginning? Was your young child passive and inclined to sit sucking a thumb or was he or she active and enquiring? Does your child worry about `getting into trouble’ if he or she does not achieve good marks on a paper?
In adults we accept that stress is to be expected when moving house. Losing a job, losing money, losing friends and feeling a loser are all acceptable triggers for stress in adults. Job interviews, driving tests and mislaying car and house keys can all contribute to feeling stressed.
We are told that exercise helps. We are reminded that a counsellor can possibly help. Some adults try hypnotism and others suffer a diet of pins being stuck into key parts of the boy. Some possibly read the stars so see how they must react. Others may rely on their biorhythms.
How can you help your child? In theory your child may need good sleep patterns. We are told that 8 hours a day is needed. But what can you do if your bright, able and articulate child does not feel the need to sleep for eight hours a day?
Encourage your child to take breaks. What can you do if the five minute break turns into a fifteen minute argument about when to return to studies?
Ask your child to turn from `I can’t’ to `I can’.
Help your child to manage his or her time. Timetables, lists and action plans are all supposed to help – but not all children react well to being organised. You may have to play it by ear.
Lots of treats!
Lots of congratulations!
These two are possibly the vital ingredients in holding down stress levels.
Thursday, July 14, 2011
We work with eleven plus children in the
Some questions are `Explain in your own words’. Others are to do with True and False. There are vocabulary sections and a part where the eleven plus child is asked for evidence.
Some times the children may be expected to answer in full sentences – especially when a long answer is required. Some parts can be answered with a phrase or short phrase.
Some general points apply:
Locate the relevant piece of text
Decide exactly what is stated there
Work out whether more than one aspect is asked for
Your child will also need to work out how to phrase the answer. Remind your child that is often no need to try to be too elaborate.
Suggest to your child that he or she should read the question at least twice before answering the question.
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
A tasting panel was asked to assess biscuits baked from a new recipe. Each member was asked to assign a score from 0 – 100 for texture (X) ,flavour (Y) and sweetness (Z).
Draw a scatter diagram to illustrate the data.
Your eleven plus child, with the aid of some graph paper, should be able to make sense of this data. Your child may also be able to make deductions and comment on the spread of the data.
(“Mum, is this really A Level work?”)
The second part of the question asked for the product moment correlation to be calculated. This, however, may be beyond the scope of a traditional eleven plus syllabus!
Reassure your child that the work that is being done towards the eleven plus will have value one day.
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Cassius was talking to Brutus about Julius Caesar in Act 1 Scene 2. He was trying to set the stage.
Why, man, he doth bestride the narrow world
Like a Colossus, and we petty men
Walk under his huge legs and peep about
To find ourselves dishonourable graves.
Men at some time are masters of their fates:
The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars,
But in ourselves, that we are underlings.
What is in the stars of our eleven plus children? We know that stars are part of the `heavenly body’ and are distinct from our planets. We know too that an enormous number of stars have been charted – and fresh discoveries are constantly being made. Some stars are called `variables’ and so undergo changes of brilliance. These stars are ranked at different times under different magnitudes. (Hence our stars wax and wane!)
The stars were of great value for time keeping and navigation. The Pole Star, for example, marks the North and the South poles – while other stars are used for longitude and latitude.
Some of us even use the stars for our star signs. Our twelve star signs are derived from the Olympian Gods. A good astrologer will look at the time of day your eleven plus child was born, the day, the month and the year and then arrive at a forecast of what could possibly lie ahead.
We know, however, that the time is
What time is it? Later than you think. What time is it? Earlier than you realise. What time is it? Time to stop worrying quite so much about whether things are running according to schedule. Time, as Einstein took pains to point out, is relative. It is certainly flexible. You know how some minutes pass in a flash and others seemingly last an eternity? That's not just subjective experience, that's proof of time's malleability. If there doesn't now seem to be enough time for what's needed, you can make that time. Now please, keep reading because, if you haven't yet had a full personal chart reading, calculated from your date of birth, you have been missing out. Change your future.
This was taken from the Australian Telegraph for today.
Some eleven plus parents may care to look at the stars to see what sort of work their child will do today. Using a horoscope from
Remind your child, as did Cassius to Brutus, that the fault for not working hard is not in the stars – it is up to him or her to do the work. Remind your child too that if they settle down to do the work it could be done in a flash – rather than lasting for eternity. Chat too about Einstein and the relativity of time. And finally remind your child that the eleven plus in many areas is less than three months away.
Monday, July 11, 2011
If only the eleven plus could be changed so that it was a little more universally attractive to more children. Some children feel that they are just not ready to take on the challenge of the eleven plus. Other children know that they are able to take the examination – but determine that they are neither ready nor willing – and so opt out. Other children do not want to take part unless a guarantee can be offered that any extra work will result in a pass.
It would be wonderful if our children could feel that the eleven plus was the very essence of education for the bright and the deserving? Imagine if more of our eleven plus children could feel that working towards a competitive examination was an innate gift. Suppose we set out to establish that the eleven plus was the very essence of education.
It would be fun to try to make our children excited about the eleven plus and the rather broader education it has the potential to offer. This could save a lot of slogging through countless eleven plus questions and papers.
If we could reach a state of confidence - untrammelled by urgency and anxiety – we would find little reason not to be pleased with ourselves.
Rudyard Kipling gave us `If’. The link through to `poemhunter.com’ offers the whole poem – but the comments that follow are almost equally illuminating. There will always be countless shades of opinion on the eleven plus.
Sunday, July 10, 2011
As the comfort level of some of our eleven plus children rises so it may, for some parents, become a little more difficult to extract maximum performance all the time.
The promise of a new game or a larger pony may not result in increased eleven plus productivity. Motivating a child can be a complex business. The key word for parents may be `creativity’. The more impressive the creativity on the part of mum or dad the more their child may respond.
Parents may need to think of ways of producing incentivised packages – where they are offering something that is new, exciting and different. Parents are parents – and so are very well equipped to be able to work out what works for their child. The objective is simply to draw a little more focused, and possibly more effective, work out of their child.
Big carrot. No stick.
Saturday, July 09, 2011
When you, and your child, are working through eleven plus exercises how do you help your child to differentiate between generalising over objects or distinguishing between objects? Sometimes you are trying to suggest to your child that he or she should be looking for common elements. At other times you will want your child to find minute differences.
The old Look and Say method of Janet and John reading encouraged a child to look at the shape and pattern of works. “Look John. Look.” Some eleven plus exercises also appear to involve rather similar close scrutiny of material. Other early discrimination exercises at school, some years ago, would have asked children to estimate to the nearest yard and then to the nearest inch. In today’s world we could be looking at the difference between a metre and a millimetre.
A German psychologist (Kohler), many years ago, trained a hen to go to the lighter of two containers to collect food. He then removed this container and replaced it with a darker one.
Eleven Plus Question
Which container did the hen then go for?
A The hen was confused and flapped its wings in frustration
B The hen chose the darkest one
C The hen selected the lightest container
D The hen tried the medium coloured container
The answer is obvious to all – the hen chose the medium bowl – because it was now the lighter of the two.
You may want your child to reject the dark answer – then the light answer – leaving the confusion and the medium answer to re-examine. Some eleven plus questions, however, seem to have answers that are remarkably similar – and thus delivering a bewildering scenario to your child.
As you wave your child a fond farewell – and you watch fondly as he or she walks into the examination hall – just repeat a little mantra.
My child’s brain is bigger than that of a chicken.
My child’s brain is bigger than that of a chicken.
My child’s brain is bigger than that of a chicken.
My child’s brain is bigger than that of a chicken.
Friday, July 08, 2011
The end of term is approaching – and with it the holidays. Eleven plus children all over the country will be hoping that their parents do not get too carried away by the idea of even more extra work over the holidays. One or two children may even have been able to tempt their parents with the idea of an eleven plus party.
The Reasoning Party
To play this game the host and hostess should prepare a list of eleven plus questions.
Divide the children into two teams – and encourage them to sit together at opposite ends of the room. The party then needs an affable quiz master or mistress. The quiz master (or mistress) then places himself (or herself) near to the rum punch and tops up the waiting glass.
One player from each team is then sent to collect an eleven plus question. The rest of the team have to either guess, or work out, the answer. Only the words `Yes!” or “No!” are allowed.
One a team has correctly guessed the answer the next player is sent out to collect the next question.
Teams have to be reasonably quiet so that they do not give away the answer to the other team.
The winning team is the first team to guess, or work out, all the answers to the questions.
Naturally this game will have to have forfeits. How about the losing team having to read a chapter of a book? What about doing an eleven plus paper? The children themselves may be able to think of suitable forfeits. Enjoy the ride!
Thursday, July 07, 2011
Anaesthetists have found that visiting the patient the night before an operation, and establishing a relationship, has value in inducing quick and easy anaesthesia on the operating table the next day. The more frightened and upset the patient is, the more difficult it is to induce anaesthesia.
The aesthetic the patient receives is in part a function of the personal relationship between the patient and the doctors. In more simple eleven plus terms we could raise a hypothesis that the more relaxed your child is when he or she enters the examination the more likely that good results will be obtained.
Of course every eleven plus parent knows that when their child has a low stress threshold – with high posterior hypothalamic activity – he or she will react differently to a person with a high stress threshold.
Years ago men used to sort out difference with duels. The protagonists were accompanied by seconds. A doctor was usually in attendance. Some duels were designed to kill each other. In other duels the duellists would take the statutory steps, turn and then fire into the air. Honour would be assuaged. It was considered very bad form for one duellist to shoot to kill while his opponent was firing into the air. It is likely, however, that stress levels rose very high in the seconds leading up to the shots being fired.
I wonder if the doctor had a little chat with each of the duellists? Was he reassuring that the best possible medical assistance was available? Did the doctor say, “Don’t worry, just do your best. There will always be winners and losers. I have faith in you. If anything goes wrong we will be there to pick up the pieces.”
Did a person with low stress levels but lightening responses do better in a life and death situation than a person with high stress levels but with the ability to offer a more measured and contemplative response?
Should eleven plus parents try to help their child the night before an examination by going over key points, or would a brisk walk with the neighbour’s dog help to build an attacking frame of mind?
Would it help if eleven plus parents made the point that the eleven plus was not a matter of life and death? Should their child be reassured that alternative arrangement had already being made?
“You will never go to that school down the road. I would rather do anything. I am so stressed over this. Do you hear that dear? You have to pass.”
Wednesday, July 06, 2011
Would the prime minister approve? Can this be part of the `Big Society'?
Tuesday, July 05, 2011
High sat white Helen, lonely and serene.
He had not remembered that she was so fair.
And that her neck curved down in such a way;
And he felt tired. He flung the sword away,
And kissed her feet, and knelt before her there,
The perfect Knight before the perfect Queen.
Do you remember the pride you felt the first time your child answered an eleven plus question? Do remember sharing the excitement with all your family and friends? Do you remember looking for more and more and more papers to feed the voracious mind? Do you remember how happy you felt when your child first achieved over 90% on a paper?
You are obviously waiting for your child to pay homage to your unquenched spirit. You are waiting for that look in the eye that says `Thank you Mother for all you have done.’
My child kissed my hand, and completed yet more work.
The perfect candidate before the perfect Mother.
The next verse does, however, contain the lines: “And her golden voice
Got shrill as he grew deafer. And both were old."
At least your eleven plus will be over before you grow shrill!
Monday, July 04, 2011
The average amount of pig iron a man could load on a car 12.5 tons a day.
He showed the workmen how to move, how to bend, when to rest – and some men increased their output to 47.5 tons a day. All the men increased their output considerably.
(A sneaky eleven plus question follows: “What was the percentage increase of some of the men?”)
Move onto stage two. Now this is not advocating large families but do you remember Frank and Lillian Gilbreth? (Twelve Children!)They analysed many jobs into elemental operations. Motions were checked and the time taken for each movement was analysed to see where efficiency could be improved. They made hundreds of time and motion studies and discovered several new principles.
Both arms should move simultaneously – and in opposite symmetrical directions.
Continuous curved motions are better than jerky movements.
Foot pedals should relieve hands when ever possible.
Tools should be conveniently placed.
Workers need rest periods.
Useful Eleven Plus Advice
Hug your child with both arms simultaneously. A one arm hug, on your part, smacks of indolence.
Try to keep cool and calm when working on an eleven plus topic – too much emotion can take the pleasure out of a shared task.
Do not be tempted to give you child a quick boot – the laying on of hands is probably more effective.
Make sure that all pens, pencils, dictionaries, papers, books, food, ice cream, bribes, computers and a variety of drinks are available before your child starts work Trips to the bath room, to look for the cat and then feed the budgie should be conducted, when possible, prior to engagement. Television sets, siblings and mobile phones should be placed in a sound proofed room – well away from the scene of battle.
Offer all `Eleven Plus Time and Motion Advice’ forcefully when necessary – but in a kind and sympathetic manner.
Above all – remember that rest periods should be a complete break from eleven plus activities. Parents contemplating the approaching holidays – and thinking of buying extra books and papers to take on the trip to New York to the cousins, or on the three week Mediterranean cruise should think again. When your child cries: Oh! Give me a break Mum,” think about your child’s needs – not the eleven plus.
Sunday, July 03, 2011
A person who is a Latin dancer would be able to pay close attention to a couple dancing the Merengue. In the Merengue the two dances try to mirror each other through a series of sequences. On the first beat the man shifts his weight to the right, the woman to the left. The woman’s right leg and the man’s left leg then bend at the knee as the weight is released. On the second beat the weight is shifted across to the other foot. There is often a pronounced movement of the hips. Would a non dancer note the movement of the hips? Of course – if the movement was accentuated.
A deaf person may be able to play attention to loud noises – but may not be able to hear or react to softer noises. A deaf child may hear some sounds – but however hard the child tries to pay attention he or she may be hearing little sound or even distorted sounds.
Rudyard Kipling described Kim’s Game in the Jungle Books. Articles are placed on a tray and are covered over. The cover is then removed for a few seconds while an attempt is made to remember as many objects as possible on the tray. This exercise is good fun – and it also attempts point out the need to pay close attention.
William Stanley Jevons (1835–82), threw beans into a box and then estimated the number. When he was paying attention he found he could easily count three or four beans. He sometimes made mistakes on five beans. When he threw ten beans he was right about half the time. He was almost always wrong with fifteen. (You could try this at home!) The American psychologist George Miller cited Jevons’s work when he was working on chunking. The idea behind chunking is that numbers can be recognised more easily if they are grouped. In KS2 mathematics we can use chunking to do division. This form of chunking is achieved by repeated multiplication. Is it likely that enlightened teachers teach chunking to help their children focus and pay attention?
Attention can be selective. An eleven plus child can choose to be attentive. Parent can, however, help their child with developing an attention span. Try a little dance. Try a range of sounds. Try Kim’s Game. Throw beans around. Keep working at chunking until your child has grasped the concept.
Saturday, July 02, 2011
R. D. Laing wrote in 1970:
There is something I don’t know
That I am supposed to know
I don’t know what it is I don’t know
And yet am supposed to know,
And I feel I look stupid
If I seem both not to know it
Therefore, I pretend I know it
This is nerve-wracking since I don’t
Know what I pretend to know
Therefore, I pretend I know everything.
When your child does not read the instructions on how to do a verbal reasoning question – but looks straight at the answers - you may, sometimes, feel an element of frustration. “We have talked about this before. Read the instructions. Read the question and do not try immediately to guess the answer. You may find that you get yourself in knots.”
As you repeat this mantra to your much loved child you may, at times, wonder if you are being ridiculous even contemplating the eleven plus. The whole situation could easily escalate if you child turns to you with a winning smile and maintains: “But we did questions like this last week. I do know what I have to do. Don’t try and mix me up. We have already done this. When you moan at me I just feel knots in my stomach.”
At this stage some parents may feel a slight twinge of irritation. What happens if your child meets a knotty problem in the examination? Will he or she read the question again or just guess at the answer? Do parents have the right to keep on nagging in the hope that they can change the habits of lifetime – or do they accept that sometimes it is not humanly possible? Is it really worth the time and effort or can a mother or father feel confident that their child may make the odd mistake but will generally `pull through’?
T.S. Elliot (1939) had a lot more faith in people and their ability to understand the need for change.
Round and round the circle
Completing the charm
So the knot be unknotted
The cross be uncrossed
The crooked made straight
And the curse be ended.
Perhaps, after all you are needlessly worrying, your child will unravel the knots.